I am not rushing out of 2020, nor indulging it; rather, I am excavating and mining the hard-earned gems to move them forward when the time is right.
A few personal reminders, confessions, and commitments:
- Sexiest sentence: “I don’t know”
- Take nothing personally: people can only see and meet me where they see and meet themselves
- Guilt, shame, blame, and negative thinking are as toxic to my body as parasites and yeast – courage shifts it
- Ego is active if I demand that I am right, host opinions, or launch into reaction without a breath
- Expectations lead to resentments
- Unless I’ve meditated on someone’s life for ten years, I don’t have the right to judge them (adopted from my teacher, PSS)
- Life doesn’t owe me anything – it’s up to me to decide who I am and where I am heading. Then write it down, pen to paper
- Jealousy, envy, complaints, comparison and gossip siphon energy
- Conscious rituals of release are a must: screaming, punching a pillow, squat thrusts, dumping it on paper
- Fear is noted, welcomed, and held – reciting Psalm 23 on repeat and banging out 108 kundalini frogs helps
- Be humble, ask for help
- Crying is sacred soul talk
- Apologizing without an action plan is rote and vapid
- Listen to all feedback but take advice/criticism from those with a calibrated nervous system
- Embrace the unknown – the present moment lives there
- “Not worthy enough, smart enough, trained enough, connected enough” is an insult to my Creator
- Inner child never goes away – befriend her, write her letters or take her out for tea
- Growing up only happens when childhood beliefs are examined, and I take parents off the pedestal or out of the ditch
- No decision is thedecision
- Overwhelm and confusion stem from a lack of plan
- Parenting mission statement is the beacon – do not ask anything of girls which I am not doing myself
- To think and feel bigger than my current situation activates dreams
- Feeling sorry for myself is permitted, but it’s measured – 20-minute increments as needed
- Keep the shadows in front of me
- Live in the “AND” – I am selfish, mean, insecure, and I am confident, generous, available, and divine
- Wisdom reflects on painful memories without emotional reaction – until then, the wounds are still healing
- The quietest person in the room is often the most powerful
- When life brings me to my knees, I stay there as long as I need – God is there, too, and movement forward is love
- Loving someone’s essence is a must, but I don’t have to love their program
- If I grumble about someone more than three times, I confess and have a conversation with them
- I sway like a hollow, flexible reed when life crashes down – anything brittle, rigid, and dense in nature breaks
- People that have hurt me the most and supported me the most have contributed equally to my evolutionary growth
- There is no other – not one person above or below me
- Scarcity, victimhood, and perfectionism are habits
- Simplicity and silence are the highest currencies
- The quality of my life boils down to the rituals I take, the questions I ask, and the elevated conversations I initiate
- The first thing I think/say in the morning and last thing I think/say at night creates my destiny
- I don’t care what your down dog pose looks like in class, I want to know how it’s nobly serving you in your home
- Take care of the basics: 8-hours sleep, nourishing food, hydration, abstain from alcohol and sugar, eliminate woe and negativity, therapy, rich connections, body and mind-based practices, appropriate breathwork, conscious conversations, proper rest
- Joy is the ultimate elixir!
If YOU are reading this, then you have some badass techniques that got you through this moment and time. Please take a moment to acknowledge them, even write them down. You are divine, beautiful, worthy, and you matter. You belong here.